The information in this article is advice to make life simpler for you as a single parent. It will be a combination of book and article I read and put into practice along with my own ideas. I honestly believe the best things you can give your children is your love and your time.
The first item I am going to suggest is the hardest thing to do as a single mom or a single dad. That is get along with the other parent. They area major part of your child’s life unless they have done something absolutely unforgivable to the child and are not allowed to see them. If you have been hurt it really stinks but the kids are what really matter. They need both parents. Your parenting is much easier if you get along with each other. The goal is to make your children into quality people and not turn them into problem children. This is the most difficult to follow piece of advice to make life simpler that I have for you! I am sure this is not a popular item but it is my truth!
Here is some sound advice I have for you If you and your child’s mother or father split up but have a decent, cordial relationship working out a co-parenting situation is the best for the child. It will have both parents involved in their life and make them feel more normal.
If this is a situation that simply won’t work I have 10 tips that I found useful. These will work even if you have a co-parenting situation. It also works in two parent households.
The Ten Point List For Advice to Make Life Easier
- We all need help so don’t be afraid to ask for it. Many people in your life will assist you. They include your parents, siblings, friends and other relatives. I will list some agencies and other organization you can look to in the help section.
- Build a support network out of these people helping you. This will remove some of the stress out of your life. It will help you feel better about yourself and how the kids are being taken care of when you need a break.
- Set up a daily schedule so the kids no what to expect. This should include wake up time, breakfast, chores, any child activities, etc. This will help you keep track of where you should be and where every child is suppose to be.
- Make time for yourself. We all need a break so take one and don’t feel guilty about it. You need to recharge your battery every day. This will help you be at your best most of the time!
- Find mentors or just time with an other adult or adults if your ex is not in the picture. Your kid will need a break from you and to see how other adults do things. it also creates a bond between that adult (I am a grandfather and do things with my grandchildren) that makes them all better for it. It works even in two parent households like my son and daughter in laws.
- Spend time with your kids..Your kids will want your time not to be bought off with toys. They love you and want your attention. I suggest spending time with all of your children together most of the time. Try to create one on one time with each child as much as is realistic.
- Have fun with your kids and be a kid yourself. If you embarrass yourself it will show the kids you are only human. If everything you do with them is grocery shopping or other errands you are not creating a positive experience with them. Take them to a park or a zoo. it can be free just as long as it is with you!
- Set up rules you and the kids must follow – The rules can be simple but they must be something you will enforce. There must be consequences if the rules are disobeyed just to prove they are real.
- Find yourself before you start dating – going through this experience is tough on both you and the kids. If they are sharing someone new right away odds are good they won’t like him or her and it could lead to many issues down the line.
- My biggest rule is put the kids first always – They are your blessing to take care of and make sure they always feel loved and special. I always feel truly blessed and would not change a thing but I see way to many people believing children are a burden instead of the blessing they are!
If you set up a structured way to do things and work with your kids you will be amazed how well this advice to make life simpler will work. It will not be successful 100% of the time but it is much better than being totally unprepared and flying by the seat of your pants! It took me awhile to figure this out! I learned I had to simplify or just feel rushed and out of control all of the time!