Why Are You A Parent?

Why are you a parent?  Is this a question you have ever wondered about?  I am sure you know all of the biology that goes into making the baby you have.  The guy does his thing and the gal does her thing and nine months later a baby comes along.

If you are asking yourself why are you a parent perhaps you should have taken precautions against this happening.  You know all the birth control methods out there.  Pregnancy is fairly easy to prevent and if you are not ready to have the responsibility of have a child make sure you don’t.  If you weren’t prepared at the time and looking forward to it now things will work out!

The Baby Makes An Introduction

When this blessing appears you should feel on top of the world!  The miracle created is part of you and, hopefully, somebody you love.  If this is not the case please give this baby a fighting chance and the parent that loves him or her keep them while the other steps aside or give the baby up for adoption.  All kids deserve a chance at a happy life!

I am hoping you are a couple that falls for this baby right away and stays together forever!  This baby will have the security of a mother and father (or some combination) and be loved.  If this relationship breaks up the child should still have the support from both of you unless the worst happens and one of you passes away!

Children need stability in order to excel at life.  Many of you think you can’t tolerate this or that without trying.  I am still friends with my ex wife and we are still friends!  It took us a few years to get up to that point after the divorce but the kids were never put in the middle.  It has been over 20 years now and I am friends with her new husband and everything is good!  Both of my kids graduated from 4 year colleges and are great people!

Children Always Come First

I always preach and will always preach kids come first!  It is not your dislike for your ex, your looking for a new replacement, or yourself!  You helped created this perfect being so it is your mission to love and take care of them for the rest of your life!  If you have the ultimate disaster of losing your child you will be devastated beyond measure as life has really cheated you of the beauty and wonder of your special miracle.

Thank you for reading!

Keith

13 thoughts on “Why Are You A Parent?

  1. David

    Being a parent I must say is the most rewarding thing anyone can ask for, sure it is tough going at times but it is all so wroth it in the end. I have 3 under the age of 8 and the house is just magic watching them play, sing, dance and tell jokes. No matter want happens, we bite our tongues for the sake of the children and never hold grudges – that has worked for us so far – thanks for your post

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    1. Keith Maki Post author

      You have a great way of handling things at home! It sounds like a great family atmosphere where the kids are the primary focus and you are all in it together. Thank you for sharing !

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  2. Audrey L. K.

    Thank you for writing this heartfelt article! I completely agree with your point, that once you have children, they are the FIRST priority. It’s so strange to see many people miss this important point, and put their own needs ahead of the child. Or using the child for their own gain. Not cool. Children are sacred, vulnerable beings and it is our responsibility to make sure they are safe, loved and nourished physically and emotionally.

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    1. Keith Maki Post author

      Thank you Audrey! I have seen that too! Children are so innocent and need the love of their parents. I know it is not always easy to put them first but they trust you and love you with all of their being! You have pretty much stated all my feelings…

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  3. Sharon Whyte

    Good post Keith and straight to the point! I have an 18 year old girl and twin 14 year old boys and all were planned (well not twins..lol) and I must say it has the been the best thing that has happened to me and my partner. I just love being a parent and like you say or the commenter before me, it is tough at times but you make it work. Our family home is such a fun, loving one and I am so pleased you made it work for your children even though things didnt work with your wife. So important!

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  4. Sharon Whyte

    Good post Keith and straight to the point! I have an 18 year old girl and twin 14 year old boys and all were planned (well not twins..lol) and I must say it has the been the best thing that has happened to me and my partner. I just love being a parent and like you say or the commenter before me, it is tough at times but you make it work. Our family home is such a fun, loving one and I am so pleased you made it work for your children even though things didnt work with your wife. So important!

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    1. Keith Maki Post author

      Thank you Sharon. I have seen to many situation where the children are treated as an inconvenience rather than the most important part of a family..I honestly believe a child makes us better. I know my two have made me in to a much better person than I was before they were born! You sound like you have a great family life with your partner which is how the world should be! The love of a child is a feeling that can’t be replaced!

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  5. Laurie

    I believe that sometimes people have children when they’re too young. As the parents start to mature in different ways and it ends up in divorce. Unfortunately, the children suffer to most. I was a young 22 when I had my son. His father and I divorced when our son was only 2. I was ready and willing to take on the responsibility but he was not. We did our best to keep the peace, for our sons’ sake, but it became too difficult as he was a bitter and difficult person. Our son is an adult now and my ex-husband and I still do not associate with each other. I tried my best to keep things civil, for our son, but it never worked out. I always put our son first and made sure that he had everything that he needed, as he was growing up. I’m happy to hear that some divorced parents are able to put their differences aside, to keep the peace for the children. The children should always come first.

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    1. Keith Maki Post author

      You are an amazing woman Laurie! You and your husband really did place your son first which is what should happen. I am so proud to know another person who actually could do that! If you don’t put your anger towards him aside it changes the relationship between your son and his grandparent and any aunts and uncles on your ex husbands side. Your unselfishness is a true example of how a parent should act with a child when going through a divorce! I say hooray for you!

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  6. Norman

    Hello and it is good that your are sharing this information, being a single parent is not easy but if your find yourself in this position then don’t dispare. While again it may not be easy the thing then is to face your responsibility and deal with it. That child now needs you love and support, the child is a part of you. Children are a great blessing and can fill a home with joy. And guess what you will never know the contribution that child will bring when they grow up, also being a blessing to many.

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    1. Keith Maki Post author

      You are absolutely correct Norman. A child is a blessing and that must be remembered. They are filled with unconditional love and they need that in return. If the child is brought up feeling this love they will be a blessing to all they meet and will make the world a better place.

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  7. Allison

    I really enjoyed where you talk about helping with organizing schedules. My husband and I have trouble keeping up with things and he end up missing a lot of appointments for himself. We’ve just have so much going on, so your advice really helped me to kickstart some organizing/scheduling ideas of my own!

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    1. Keith Maki Post author

      Hi Allison, I am very happy you found the post useful!  I know that if I did not have a calendar I would never be able to figure out where everyone is!  I know it helps me keep organized and I know it will help you too!  You will do very well setting things up using your own ideas!

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